Divorce
No, I’m not getting one. But I thought about the word yesterday.
You see, we were at a wedding and during the ceremony my mind always tends to wander away. Maybe my attention span just isn’t good enough to focus for an hour.
Anyway, it has nothing to do with the people who were getting married nor anything I saw or did while I was there. The wedding was actually very nice, a Catholic ceremony minus the mass and communion (boo yah). For some reason, my mind wondered and after lots of various thoughts I came up with this:
What if the process of divorce was handled in the same way as the process of being wed?
That is, what if in order to divorce you had to invite your friends, get dressed up, go to church, and basically say your “divorce” vows in front of your friends and God? You could even have a great reception afterwards. A good drink is probably what you’d want after that anyway.
The ceremony could involve each participant getting the other’s ring back, the signing of the divorce papers, the giving back of the bride to her father. They could play the funeral march, since that would probably be somewhat appropriate to the occasion.
I think I’m on the verge of something big here. I bet if I could convince some Hollywood elite to try this out, the next thing you know it would be big all over the US.
September 29th, 2006 at 7:28 am
Hi there. I just did a search on Yahoo for “divorce vows” and I found your blog. My husband and I are talking about the possibility of a divorce, and we want it to be as amicable and harmonious as is humanly possible. I thought about the idea of making certain promises or vows to each other in order to try to accomplish this goal. It’s an interesting topic/idea. I’d like to hear more on the subject. (I also found a website by a psychologist listing some good divorce vows in the interest of the children, although it should go without saying that a peaceful divorce would be beneficial to ALL involved including the divorcees, the relatives, friends, children’s teachers, church members and anyone else that is close to the family). Divorce is a painful thing; just like surgery. Therefore it seems to me that certain steps could be taken in order to minimize the pain as much as possible. Having seen my own parents divorce when I was 15, I know firsthand how devastating it was to me and my brother. I do not want to get a divorce at this point, and my husband and I are going to go through marriage counseling again, but if my husband pursues a divorce or even thinks about just getting seperated, I was thinking of ways that I could let him know that I will endeavor to support his decision without playing mind games and getting ugly about it. (Even though right now I feel like I want to throw up). Thanks for letting me comment.
October 4th, 2006 at 3:03 pm
Who is this janet chick?
she sounds HOT!